How Can I Trust Again?

“Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.” – Corrie ten Boom.

A vital part of relationships is having the assurance that there is mutual trust. We all have a strong need to feel safe and secure within our friendships.

Unfortunately, however, trust is often broken within a relationship, leaving feelings of hurt, fear, confusion and anger.  Conquering these feelings can take a long time to overcome. It may feel impossible to ever have faith again in the person that broke your trust.

Trusting someone after they have broken your confidence is one of the hardest things to do.  Walls go up around our hearts, and we may even feel like we won’t be able to believe in anyone again.

Going through life not having faith in people is sad and lonely.

Rebuilding trust in humanity is crucial in living the fullness of life that God intended for you.

But how can you trust again when it feels impossible?

Here are some guidelines to encourage you to rebuild trust where it has been broken.

1. Forgive

I know this is not easy, but you must forgive your offender. Choosing to live a life surrendered to Jesus’s ways will always mean forgiving others.

Having a tender heart is a step forward in trusting again. Forgiving those who have hurt you will soften your heart.

 2.  Pray

Take Jesus’s approach and pray for the person that has broken your trust. You will be amazed at how this response can turn your life around.

Never underestimate the power of prayer. God can accomplish a lot more than we can, so surrender all your emotions to Him through prayer.

3.  Trust God

You may never be able to trust the individual that has betrayed you, and sometimes you shouldn’t ever trust them again. There are, however, some circumstances, such as in reconciling a marriage, where you need to try and trust again.

Sometimes there is only one way to trust again, and that is to trust God. (Tweet this).

God will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5-6). With Jesus by your side you are never alone because His love and grace are with you. He will be faithful to shine His light on all truth and carry you through your insecurities.

This is how I have learned to trust my husband again…

You see, many years ago, before either one of us had a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, we lived in very ungodly ways. We both did a lot of damage to our marriage and we ended up living separately.

During our separation each of us became Christians and decided to reconcile. This was a hard decision for me as I had a lot of fear about trusting my husband again.

Then the Lord impressed on my heart that I could lean on Him and trust Him.

I didn’t have to live in fear of man because I could trust God.

I started praying daily for God to encourage me.  As I did this I began to slowly rebuild my confidence and hope again. I learned to trust my husband again because I trust God to guide our lives. He is in the center of our marriage now, and I put my trust in Him.

If you are struggling with trusting someone in your life, I encourage you to go to God with all your concerns and ask Him to help you.

Trusting your loved ones through trusting God allows you to live a fuller, more peaceful life. It’s what He wants for you and I. He desires for us to have healthy, fulfilling relationships. If you do your part, He will be faithful to do His.

Ultimately our faith and hope needs to be in God and not in man anyway (Psalm 118:8).  Although people will always hurt and disappoint us, the Lord, will always want us to walk in love.

This doesn’t mean we forgive carelessly, but rather that we show God’s love by extending grace to our loved ones. Jesus said we are to forgive always (Matthew 18:21-22).

Besides, everything we do we do “unto the Lord” (Colossians 3:23).

Leave me a comment below on how you have learned to trust after trust has been broken.

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