The Weed Of Rejection

The pain of rejection can cut deep.  Rejection is a bad seed planted in your heart. Like weeds in a garden, rejection can choke the beauty within you, crowding out the person God created you to be.

Rejection will lead you to believe lies about yourself.

You may begin to believe that you are un-worthy, not good enough.

You may believe people don’t like you.

You may believe something is wrong with you.

I know because I am someone that has been rejected many times in my life. With each rejection I began to form a poor self image.

Unfortunately, I defined myself through how others treated me.

It wasn’t until I met Jesus and I allowed Him to help me re-define me that the weeds of rejection were pulled from my heart.

The reality is rejection is a part of life and all of us will deal with it at some point. It is how you process the rejection and your response to it that will determine the impact on you (Tweet this).

Because I was a very sensitive child, I allowed the rejections in my life to affect me deeply.  For example, I was so easily affected that if someone didn’t seem interested in what I was saying I would feel hurt and rejected.

In recent years, however, through Jesus, counseling and prayers, I have learned how to overcome the brokenness I carried all my life through the root of rejection in my heart.

Here is what I have learned about healing the pain from rejection.

1.  Have a godly perspective

It was through understanding the truth about God’s love for me and through spending time in His Word that I was able to be set free from the lies I had believed  (John 8:32).

As I became a student of the Word, I began to transform. I began to see that man will always let me down, but that God would never reject me (Psalm 27:10).

Realizing that God is very pleased with how He created me I began to accept myself (Ephesians 2:10).

I saw that I was made beautiful in Christ (Psalm 139:14).

2. Be a God pleaser, not a man pleaser

The more I turned towards Jesus, the more I wanted to please Him. I began to look to Him for my approval.

Since I know God can see my heart, I care mostly about my heart being clean and pure before Him. I know I am accountable to Him for my actions, and so I live to please Him.

I value God’s opinion of me over other people’s.

I have evolved into a God pleaser and not a man pleaser.

This is where true freedom is.

When we live our lives for Jesus Christ we begin to shift our perspective about our circumstance and our self-image.

3.  It’s not about you

I have learned not to always interpret people’s actions as rejection, and therefore not take it personally.

Many times the person involved has their own issues (I can pray for them) or it wasn’t in God’s will for me (I accept this cheerfully).

It is so wonderful to have been set free from the effects caused from rejections in my life. The weeds have been pulled from my heart, allowing God to cultivate the beautiful garden He designed.

You too can pull the weeds of rejection from your heart. Keep in mind that healing is a process and takes time. You have to consciously work at thinking differently, but remember that you have a mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16) and you can hold every thought captive to His obedience (2 Corinthians 10:5).

God will help you if you seek His help.

This doesn’t mean you and I will never feel rejected again. We will because it is a part of life, but we can through the help of Christ learn how to live victoriously  through them.

 

Leave me a comment on if you have you allowed rejection in your life to affect your self-image? Do you have weeds of rejection that need to be pulled from your heart?

 

“Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong.” ~Ephesians 3:17